A Place For You. Quiz!
Let’s put ourselves in a situation: the fact that your female colleagues still experience sexism every day is hard, but you identify as a man and you have no problem with them… Besides, you can’t really be bothered to think about whether you’re a feminist or an ally, and you’ve got your own stuff to deal with.
Maybe there’s no need to think about it that much… it’s just a question of analysing the things you do every day: in class, in the playground, when you get home after school… Your everyday actions are what make you an ally (or not).
But don’t worry, we’re here to help. We’ve created a quiz that has all the answers you’re looking for and that won’t take you more than 5 minutes to complete.
So, are you ready to find out whether or not you’re a feminist ally?
A. A teacher makes a sexist comment as a joke in class, directed at one of your classmates. You…
Mention to the person sitting next to you how this teacher always nails these kinds of jokes.
Stay quiet and focus on what you’re studying, ignoring the subject.
Talk to the affected classmate and offer to go with her to talk to the tutor or the teacher, if that’s what she wants.
B. During a lesson one of your female classmates goes to the blackboard to solve a problem and makes a mistake. You…
Tell the teacher out loud where your classmate went wrong and what she should have done. The teacher didn’t ask you to, but you want them to see that you know how to do it!
Know how to solve it, but you wait for the teacher to ask the class for input.
Laugh out loud. How can she get such an easy thing wrong?!
C. In the middle of the year, a new girl joins the class. You…
Go over to introduce yourself and chat to her, and you let her know that you’re there to help if she needs it.
Ask your classmates what they think and decide that she’s pretty enough to talk to.
Since you think you won’t have anything in common with a girl, you let her female friends help her get settled it.
D. The class chooses you and another girl as class representatives. How do you divide the work?
You don’t care what needs to be done, you just want an excuse to skip class.
You ask her what she would like to do and agree on a fair way to share out the duties.
You leave the hard work of organising the class to her, and you take care of telling the class about parties and trips away.
E. Through the class WhatsApp group, photos are sent of a classmate who has been made to look like she is naked using artificial intelligence. You…
Confront the guy who sent them and ask him to delete the photos: it’s not funny in the slightest.
Laugh and forward the photos to friends in other year groups. Sharing is caring!
Leave the group, you don’t want any drama.
F. You experience an unfair situation in the classroom, and together you all agree that you want to go and talk to the head of the school. How do you organise it?
With the different groups in the class, you start organising how you will act and come up with a strategy that you can all take part in.
Ignore all of it, someone else will take care of it. You really don’t all have to go.
You only get involved when the students who are taking care of it ask for help.
G. Your friend got a bad mark in an exam that you did very well in, and she is upset about it. You…
The topic was so easy… You tell her that you don’t understand how she could have failed it.
Without her asking, you explain to her what she should have done to pass.
You offer to help her or go with her to talk to the teachers, if she needs it.
H. A talk is given on sexual and reproductive health in which, among other topics, menstruation is discussed. It doesn’t affect you because you don’t menstruate, so what do you do meanwhile?
As you’re getting bored, you interrupt and disturb the person giving the talk.
You listen to what is being said and think about how you could do better when your female classmates are menstruating.
You raise your hand to give your opinion on what the non-menstruating people in the class should do when those who do menstruate are on their periods.
I. You found out that a female classmate has an eating disorder, but you don’t know who it is. You…
Tell the teacher, just in case they didn’t know, and ask what you can do to help.
Carry on making fatphobic jokes with your friends, you don’t really care. They’re too funny to stop!
Look at the bodies of your female friends and try to figure out who is going through an eating disorder. Since you can’t work it out, you ask your female friends.
J. Your friends suggest making a list to find out who is the hottest girl in the class. You…
Find it funny, so you decide to join in. Later on in class, you all discuss the list out loud.
Don’t agree with what they’re doing, but you don’t want trouble and you keep quiet.
Call them out on it and tell them that what they are doing is objectifying girls and it’s very offensive to your female classmates.
K. One of your friends breaks up with his girlfriend and, because he’s angry, he takes it upon himself to humiliate her in class in front of everyone. She begs him to stop, but he doesn’t listen. You…
Join in with the jokes about your classmate. She should have thought about it before!
In confidence, you tell your friend that maybe the way they are acting is not the right thing to do. You offer to listen if they need to talk about the situation with someone.
Think that it’s something that the couple needs to sort out and that you shouldn’t get involved.
L. A classmate has her period and has stained her trousers, but she hasn’t realised. You…
Point out the stain from afar for your friends to see and laugh together.
Tell your classmate about the stain, shouting it out across the class.
Go over to where she is and talk to her privately, offering to help if she needs it.
M. Some graffiti has appeared in the classroom calling a classmate a “slut” and no one knows who did it. You…
Show support to your classmate, and even though you don’t know who it was, you stand by her during the process.
It’s no surprise that this happened. She was going out with three different boys from your class. You have to get used to the jokes, otherwise you should have thought about it before.
You feel sorry for the girl, but you think there’s really nothing you can do about it.
N. It’s time to choose the teams to play football in P.E. You are one of the captains and you have to select your teammates…
You pick all the boys first, even if there are girls who play football, they will never be as good as the boys.
You know it’s really positive that everyone can take part and that, as much as there are sports considered “for men”, gender is irrelevant in football.
You vary the gender of your teammates when it comes to selecting players, but you only choose female teammates when there are no more teammates left who play football outside of school.
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ANSWERS
From 14 to 27 points
If you put the work in, you can definitely do better! We can all have sexist attitudes that appear without us meaning them to, the problem is not making an effort to change them. We know that jokes can be very funny, that there are lifelong attitudes that are very difficult to change, and that you’re tired of being beaten down with feminism, but your role is also very important… And if you’ve come this far, maybe you do care a little about gender equality. While outside stimuli may tell you that it’s cool to hate feminists because they’ve gone too far, there’s still a long way to go, and I’m sure they’re very grateful to have your support. Here are some tips to get started. And we’ll see you on the other side!
From 28 to 41 points
Not bad! Even though you could be a little more involved in promoting gender equality in the classroom, you are aware of what should not be done and you don’t join in with it. And that’s already a huge step! Rome wasn’t built in a day… There is a place for you in feminism, you just have to find it. So, little by little, you’re doing well! Talk to your classmates and your teachers and try to find out how you can get more involved, in a way that you feel comfortable with, of course. We also have some useful tips on the website if you fancy having a look!
42 points!
Congratulations! You’re a real ally! Maybe you’ve never really thought about it, but when you’re around your female friends, you act like one. You should feel very proud of your role within feminism: supporting, listening and curbing sexist situations that can arise in or out of the classroom. We encourage you to keep acting this way, taking sides on feminism. Because we have a place for you!
And as there is always room for learning more, we invite you to have a look at the website and the activities of the Active Youth Network for Equality.
A place for you
This is a campaign for you: man, boy, boyfriend, brother, uncle, child, grandpa, adult, teacher, student… whoever you are, as long as you belong to the male gender, the xaji would like to invite you to join a movement that fights for the equality of all people: we have a place for you in feminism! at home, at school, at work, with friends, at parties, on the pitch, in the playroom and whenever we fight for equal rights… we have a place or you!
We want to grow, cry, play, comfort each other, take care of each other, love each other, defend each other, talk to each other and debate together. we have room for you.
There is room for you in feminism!
This campaign has been devised by students, teachers and entities involved in the xaji 23-24 during the winter and spring of 2024.
This campaign has been devised by students, teachers and entities involved in the XAJI 23-24 programme during the winter and spring of 2024.
Campaign objectives
The XAJI is a programme for the prevention of gender violence, framed by peer education and cooperative learning. It aims to support young people, so that they promote gender equality, detect abusive relationships in their own educational environment and finally become references and active agents for social transformation among their peers. It is a process that usually starts in the 1st year of Compulsory Secondary Education (ESO) and ends in the 4th year of ESO. This year it is being carried out in Catalan centres and also in Porto.
With our communication campaign A Place For You, we aim to make an impact both in Portugal and Catalonia, with the active participation of the young people of XAJI, focusing especially on the involvement of people who are visible as XAJI men.
The main objective of the campaign has been to break away from the stereotype that “young men are increasingly sexist”. Its aim is to show that there are ways that young people live and act that represent an example in the feminist struggle, highlighting the positive aspects and the mobilisation that young people are taking part in. We need to raise awareness that other ways of doing things are possible, based on the XAJI youth themselves and on other initiatives and role models of young men in feminism.
The process of the campaign
Working with all the young people of the XAJI programme, focusing on those who identify as boys, but without ignoring the girls, community actions have been carried out throughout the process. A communication campaign has been carried out with the active participation of young people and the entities that coordinate the Programme.
We would like to give a special mention to all the young women in the centres of Sant Martí and Sant Adrià who took part in the dynamics of the campaign and a special thank you to the Institut Vàzquez Montalbán of Sant Adrià del Besòs where the filming took place.
#APlaceForYou is also a place for you: have a look at all the different parts of the campaign and help us share it, to create, together, a more feminist world!